The Book

~ Tot ik bleef ~

(Until I Stayed)

 

Long before She.Wolf became a space for women,

there was a deeper question living underneath it all.

How do we love without losing ourselves?

 

This book was born from that question.

Not as a guide or a set of answers, but as an exploration of what happens inside us when love awakens the deepest layers of our nervous system.

 

It speaks about grief.

About longing.

About attachment and the patterns that quietly shape the way we relate to others.

 

But most of all, it speaks about the quiet courage it takes to remain present in desire without abandoning yourself.

 

The landscape of the book

Many women were never taught how to hold both:

deep connection
and deep self-respect.

So we move between two extremes.

We merge with the other and lose ourselves.
Or we protect ourselves and slowly close our hearts.

 

In Tot ik bleef another possibility begins to emerge.

 

A path where love is no longer driven by fear or unconscious patterns, but guided by awareness, embodiment and truth.

 

A path where a woman learns to stay.

With her longing.
With her vulnerability.
With herself.

 

For the women who recognise this

This book may resonate if you have ever felt:

 

🜄 That love awakens something intense in you

🜄 That relationships activate deeper emotional layers

🜄 That you long for intimacy but also fear losing yourself

 

It is written for women who want to understand what happens inside their body and nervous system when they fall in love. And how they can remain rooted in themselves within that movement.

 

Language

The book is currently available in Dutch only (Nederlands).  

An English edition is to follow in the near future.

 

Get the Book

If you feel called to read it, you can order the book here.