there was a question quietly living underneath it all:

 

How do we love without abandoning ourselves?

 

This book was born from that question.

Not as a guide filled with answers.

But as an honest exploration of what happens inside of us when love activates the deepest layers of the body and nervous system.

 

 

Because many women were never taught:
how to stay connected to themselves
while deeply connected to another.

 

 

What This Book Explores

Tot ik bleef moves through attachment, longing, grief, relational patterns, nervous system activation, intimacy, emotional survival, and the quiet process of returning to yourself.

 

At the heart of the book lives one deeper current:

learning how to stay.

With your body.
With your truth.
With the vulnerability that love awakens.

 

Without disappearing from yourself.

 

A Different Way Of Loving

Many women move between two extremes:

🜄 Losing themselves in another

or

🜄 Protecting themselves by slowly closing their hearts.

 

This book explores another possibility.

A way of relating rooted not in fear or unconscious survival patterns,
but in awareness, embodiment, and truth.

 

Not perfect love.

But conscious love.

 

For The Woman Who Recognises This

This book may resonate with you if you have ever felt:

🜄 That love awakens something intense within you

🜄 That relationships stir deeper emotional layers

🜄 That you long for intimacy yet fear losing yourself within it

🜄 That your body knows things your mind cannot fully explain

 

It is written for women who want to understand
what happens within them in love,
and how to remain rooted in themselves through it.

 

Language

The book is currently available in Dutch only.

An English edition is slowly unfolding and will follow in the future.

 

 

“

Ik zie je.
Ik voel me levend in jouw nabijheid.
En ik blijf bij mezelf.

Dat is een cruciaal onderscheid. Verlangen vraagt geen actie. Verlangen vraagt geen bevestiging. Verlangen hoeft niets te bewijzen. Het wil gevoeld worden. Meer niet.

Verlangen is niet wat je uit balans brengt. Het is wat je richting geeft.

Het probleem ontstaat pas wanneer verlangen wordt verward met verantwoordelijkheid voor de ander. Wanneer verlangen onbewust de taak krijgt om verbinding veilig te stellen, om verlaten worden te voorkomen, om zekerheid te creëren.

Daar begint het te verschuiven.

Maar hier, in dit boek, mag je verlangen opnieuw leren kennen als iets dat van jou is. Als iets dat je niet hoeft te onderdrukken, maar ook niet hoeft te volgen. Iets dat je kan dragen.

— Tot Ik Bleef

”

 

 

Discover The Book

If you feel called to read it, you can order the book here.